By omonu YG Nelson
A foremost preacher, Apostle Daniel Akpai of Rulers of Destiny Christian Church, RDCC Abuja, Nigeria, has stated that men who reject their wife’s food because of minor disagreements are immature. He contended that it’s inappropriate to reject food cooked by your spouse, despite the fact that you provided the money with which the food was prepared.
In a six points sermon, taken from his verified Facebook page by the Summit Post News, Apostle Akpai said, “Rejecting food when there’s an issue: Mr husband, you gave your wife money for
food and after it was prepared you refused to eat because you are angry. It’s one of the greatest signs of immaturity.”
He advised men to take a stroll when things go wrong but should not allow the face-off to linger
Speaking further, Akpai frowned at men who severally remind their wives that they’re the head of the family: “May I let you know that even when your wife disobeys/disrespects you she still knows that you are the head. You need not shout or scream it daily. Or do we need to get you a slot on CNN? It’s important for you to know when and how to be firm and stamp your feet over issues. However, don’t become a nagging husband just to prove that you are the head.
The humble but disciplined man of God added that men who constantly issue threat of divorce, physical assaults and verbal abuse to their spouses and at every slightest provocation are missing on the point. According to him: “Beating, verbally abusing your wife, issuing threats of divorce or bragging about marrying another wife does not make you a man.
“An EMPTY barrel makes the loudest noise. Your strength is in your ability to tame your tongue and control your fist. When she is acting her childish woman part, play the matured man”, he said.
He advised men to stop reporting or discussing their wives with friends and family:
“When your wife offends you, correct and sort things out. You don’t have to tell everyone about her mistakes, that will paint her black and sell her cheap such that you will not be able to redeem after settlement. By the way, are you a reporter? Answer my question.”
He has words for men who keep malice with their wife.
“Is it not funny to know that some men keep malice? Some of them even nag, criticise, abuse and call their wives names in public. It may make you look like a “big boy” who’s in control but you are not going to gain anything good from it, your home will only be a den of insults and confrontations.”
He explained that though women are the managers of the home, however, it’s not a bad thing if a man lends a helping hand when necessary.
“Watching football and reading newspapers every evening, when house chores is weighing your wife down amounts being insensitive. If you truly care, you’ll help by checking and also encouraging her. This also makes you a good example to your kids, especially the boys,” he noted.
He bemoaned the attitude of some men who neglect common thank you, when their wives stressed to prepare meals everyday.
“Some men don’t even say “thank you” to their wives after eating, all they do is compare their wife’s cooking with other women. It’s a shame that after having 3-4 kids some men cannot change a simple diaper or prepare cereal meals; a big shame.”
Apostle Daniel Akpai is married to the popular relationship therapist, Beauty Akpai of “Relationship Matters with Beauty Akpai.”