1. Pride 2. Over selection: This is another reason. Sometimes,we over select our partners.This does not mean you should not select, but seek the face of God when selecting and don’t over select.The implication is, when you over select,the good ones will go . You will eventually get married to bad ones. Then you begin to say all men are the same or all women are the same.
3. Untimely request: This goes especially to our ladies. Don’t be too quick to demand from a man you just met. You may think you are testing him or trying to know if he loves you or cares for you. All these come with time. Try to know him,build a strong bond or relationship with him first. It does not start with money. You don’t request from a man you just met. How old is the relationship? Have you met him before? Did you sit together to plan about the future ? The truth of the matter is, untimely request drives even your Godsent husband from you. Don’t think he is stingy.
4.Spiritual husband/wife. This is another reason you may be single. This is not for everybody. Only few people are affected by this. Having wet dreams ( sex in dream), seeing yourself getting married in dream, celibacy, playing with opposite gender in your dream etc are signs of spiritual husband)wife . The only panacea is getting yourself delivered before marriage otherwise any man or woman that comes your way for marriage will go. However, if you force the marriage to work, it will not stand the test of time.
5. Bad friends
6. Family background: Check your family very well. How many have married, how was the marriage? There is a family where there are five ladies from age 29 to 42, and no one has married. Are you from there?
7. Bad character
8.Religion: I am a Catholic, I can’t marry a pentecostal.Hmm!
9. He/she is far older than me
10. I can’t marry another tribe
11. If you are too holy
12. Double dating
13. Living together while not married ( co-habitation)
HOW TO HAVE A GOOD MARRIAGE
1. Respect each other
2.Be transparent 3. Be faithful 4. Communication 5. Support each other 6.Say sorry whether wrong or not 7.Tolerance 8. Patience 9.Love 10.Attention 11. Regular sex. Don’t starve each other etc
Sule Mohammed Utenwojo ( MNIM)